If you’ve made it to the first post…welcome! If you’re just curious to what ADHD life is like, or you’re are truly struggling with it and need someone to relate to, you’re in the right place. It’s chaotic. Being a mom is no easy task and being a mom with ADHD is well if you know, you know.

First and foremost I think we need to acknowledge that being a Mom is extremely demanding, not to mention the cultural demands placed on us that we didn’t sign up for. I’m constantly overstimulated with the house work, a demanding job, yard work, cooking, finding time for my husband, finding time for myself, my kids, working out and all the kids extra stuff. I find myself becoming paralyzed by the a million to do list running through my brain and some how that can often equate to nothing getting accomplished. I get tired of thinking. Stopping and reminding myself to have grace for myself helps. I take a deep breath, look around choose something and go after it. Or it may be the one task I choose is what has been bothering me the most. It’s often laundry for me, actually, it’s currently laundry… it is sitting in the dryer waiting to be folded. When I get in these overwhelmed states I have to look at the big picture and ask myself what do I have time to complete in the next 30 minutes or hour. I then have to block it off in my mind. So utilizing my current state of “Laundry” I then break it into little blocks based off the energy I have for the task. This may look like doing the kids bed linen from start to finish, may look like a load of towels, folding the a million piles of laundry I put off OR it could be I have enough time to journey down the rabbit hole of washing every couch cushions cover on my couch and using the fabric scraper to get the piles off(more often than not… its not the last one… it’s actually never been the last one but it’s been a rabbit hole on my mind for quite some time now). When or if you find yourself in the paralyzed state of too much and not knowing where to start, give yourself grace. Realize the standards on social media often aren’t realistic standards and remind yourself of your own family’s standards. Pick a small task and realize it doesn’t have to be some magical process. The goal is to get it done and there are many roads that lead to Rome. Don’t let paralyzation evaporate the time from your day. Pick a task that can be completed from start to finish with the time you have left in the day and go after it.

Laundry tip and the ADHD person: if you have the delay feature on your wash. Put the laundry in the night before, put the delay cycle on and have it finish before you go to work so you can switch it over OR if you’re not comfortable with the dryer running while your not home have the cycle set to finish shortly after you leave for work and throw it in the dryer when you get home. Do a laundry load a day to keep the laundry monster away. I find this also helps keep the rabbit holes away. I’m not committing to doing it all at once and possibly coming to task too big to do with the time I have. And I’m completing the task in 3 separate quick time frames. Night before: set delay cycle to finish early morning, morning: switch to dryer, home from work: fold/put away.